Introduction

Domestic violence doesn’t just affect the individuals directly involved - it leaves a lasting emotional impact on children who witness or experience it. Whether physical, emotional, or verbal, exposure to violence in the home disrupts a child’s sense of safety and can influence their behaviour, development, and relationships long-term. In this post, we explore how domestic violence affects children and how to support them through recovery.

How Domestic Violence Affects Children

Children exposed to domestic violence often live in fear and uncertainty. They may struggle to understand what’s happening, blame themselves, or feel responsible for protecting a parent or sibling. This emotional burden can lead to anxiety, depression, aggression, or withdrawal. Even infants and toddlers can show signs of trauma from witnessing violence.

Common Signs in Children Include:

• Sleep disturbances and nightmares

• Aggressive or defiant behaviour

• Withdrawal or difficulty forming relationships

• Trouble concentrating or sudden drop in academic performance

• Regression in behaviour (e.g., bedwetting, thumb-sucking)

• Fearfulness or clinginess

What You Can Do to Help

• Provide reassurance: Remind your child they are safe and not to blame.

• Maintain routine: Consistency helps rebuild a child’s sense of security.

• Encourage expression: Let your child talk, draw, or play through their emotions.

• Seek professional support: Play therapy or trauma counselling can help children process what they’ve experienced in a healthy way.

• Protect and prioritise safety: Take legal or protective steps where necessary to ensure the child is no longer exposed to harm.

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Conclusion

Children may not always speak about the violence they’ve witnessed, but their behaviour often tells the story. Early support, intervention, and a safe environment are essential to helping them heal. If you or someone you know is affected by domestic violence, professional help is available—for both the child and the caregiver.